Understanding What Makes You Tick Is Where You Start

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson

But being yourself sounds easier than it actually is! To be yourself you first must know and apprehend yourself. You must have a clear understanding of how you are hardwired, what drives you or makes you tick. What your uniquely personal values are. You must be very conscious about how much of you is you, and how much is inherited from or influenced by your Social Context.

In today's world of excessive information flow, finding your own voice among all the other voices blasting at you 24/7 through all kinds of channels is a challenge more present than ever before. It’s hard to know yourself when you can easily get distracted by all the images and messages the outside world overloads you with, making you wish you were this or that, assuming who you are and simply losing sight of what’s actually true.  

One of the most popular messages these days is, “The world needs that special gift only you can give.” It is an appealing and inspiring slogan, one that makes us feel charged and motivated, but when it comes down to it, most of us don’t have a clue what that special gift is.

Like anything else in life, the discovery of “Self” begins with the desire to know which drives us to seek, to investigate and ask questions.

“Seek, and you shall find.”

There are abundant resources out there which can provide satisfying answers and insights, after all the need to understand our human makeup has been occupying the minds and hearts of writers, philosophers, doctors, scientist and psychologists for centuries.

“To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom" is a famous quote often attributed to Socrates (470 – 399 BC).

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Some of the available resource focus strictly on personalities, some on interaction styles, some include introverts and extroverts, and some look at one’s strengths.

So know exactly what you are looking for and what are the questions you want to have answered.

Wherever you find your answers, make sure it feels right for You, and that as a result, you experience the following benefits in your personal and professional life:

*Less Inner Conflict. Identifying your innate inclinations, intrinsic values, and needs to align them with your external actions will result in an overall identity balance.  

*Better Decision-Making. Knowing yourself will make choices making faster and easier. From small decisions like what to have for breakfast to big decisions like which career path to chose. You'll have guidelines you can apply to solve life’s varied problems.

*Resistance To Social Pressure. Knowing what your drives and inborn preferences are will make you more socially confident. You will be less likely to say “yes” when you want to say “no,” or “no” when you want to say “yes.”

*Tolerance And Understanding of Others. Gaining an understanding of your own makeup will help you start noticing how you are similar to some people and fundamentally different from others. The ones different from you, there is no point of trying to change them because just like you, they have their makeup, equally good and valuable.   

*Knowing Your Strengths & Weaknesses. Knowing where you come in strong and where you need assistance - more than the average effort and hard work, can help you stabilize your personal life and strengthen your professional performance. It will help you be more focused and purposeful.


Self-knowledge is a powerful tool which can help you make sense of yourself and others. And as Jay Shetty says: “You don’t know what you need in your life until you figure out who you are.” Acting on self-knowledge will give you energy and save you energy.  You’ll feel freer and stronger because you no longer conform to how you “should” feel, think, or act.

Maria Angelova